Finding out that you’re going to have a baby is, hopefully, the best news that you’ve received in a very long time. And HOPEFULLY you’re prepared. But let’s be honest….Most people nowadays don’t really “Plan” to have children. I mean, who can really say that they are ready for such a task as raising a child? As a daddy-to-be, you probably haven’t changed up your daily routine much (Read: at ALL…) And this is the problem I see and hear from mothers in regard to new-to-be dads as well as dad’s that already have kids at home.
They don’t seem to take it seriously
Am I right?
YOU don’t have to carry a bowling ball around in your belly for 9 months. YOU don’t have to deal with hormonal changes within your body that might make you feel like you’re going crazy (Although you might have noticed that your wife or significant other seems a little off her rocker lately with little to no notice.) YOU don’t have to deal with heartburn where no matter what you do to change-up your diet, you still feel like your throat and chest are on FIRE (If you think about it, all of her organs are being moved about in ways you probably would be better not knowing about.) And lastly and most importantly you won’t have to push a baby out of your body (have you heard the comparison of what the pain is supposed to be like for men??) If you really want to read about it, click the following link for a detailed breakdown of what it’s like: http://www.medicaldaily.com/what-giving-birth-feels-men-may-never-experience-labor-they-can-get-taste-it-278642.
My question for you is: Why should you take it seriously?
The answer is simple: Because you are half the reason she is going through all this stuff and it is your DUTY as a husband to be there for her. Now, in no way can you take away all the above mentioned issues that women deal with daily. But you can be there to help alleviate her pain and discomfort by simply learning what it is that they go through. I’ll be the first to tell you that I have yet to meet a woman who wants to take the time to read up on what they’ll be expecting in the coming nine months when all they want to do is take a nap and eat an entire tub of ice cream topped with an entire bottle of TUMS (This is something that actually has been done!)
The best way to get ready for and become prepared for what is to come (For the next nine months and beyond) is to grab a few books. Or if you are strapped for time or don’t like to read much, you can get some audio books to listen to. I personally like the audio books, as they let your wife hear what they are about as well (If you like to listen to them while you’re at home doing chores around the house as I did.)
I promised my wife as soon as she let me know that she was pregnant that I would read up on at least one book per month of her pregnancy so that, at least on paper, I would be prepared to be the BEST FATHER THAT I COULD BE.
The following list is some of my favorite books/audio books that I read/listen to. I hope you check them out and gain some very helpful knowledge to help you along on this journey. I won’t go into too much detail of what these books consist of as this has already become longer than I intended. But here they are in two sections, Books and Audio Books:
- The Expectant Father (This book is a month by month guide of all the emotional, financial and even physical changes that a father-to-be will experience during the course of his partner’s pregnancy.)
- So You’re Going To Be A Dad (Useful and practical information about pregnancy, childbirth and child care. Most importantly, this book has info on what to say–and what NOT to say–to the woman carrying your baby. This was my personal favorite read.)
- Dude You’re Going To Be A Dad (This is a great book to avoid doing all the 1.637 things that you could do wrong during your wife’s pregnancy and also has some great info on what you could be doing FOR HER instead of focusing on what is happening TO HER.)
- The Sh!t No One Tells You About Pregnancy (This is one RAW book about pregnancy! It’s not all about planning baby showers and buying ironic onsies on Amazon. This is a great audio book to listen to while you’re driving around or cleaning the house.)
- On Becoming Baby-Wise: Giving Your Infant The Gift Of Night-Time Sleep (This Audio Book consists of some practical discussions that focus on topics such as: Feeding philosophies, baby sleep problems, baby scheduling challenges, nap training and sleep training methods.) Very informative and a MUST have addition to your baby library!)
- Hero: Being the Strong Father Your Children Need: (“Every man has it within him to be the hero father his children need.” The author of this book uses simple step-by-step instructions drawing from life experiences to help you become the best father you children could ask for.) My personal favorite new dad audio book!
These 6 books are the cream of the crop from the collection of books I currently own. My library is constantly growing as Avery does, So expect me to provide some more book recommendations as time goes on.
Please leave some comments here on what books you have read that you think I should take a look at or that some of the readers here will benefit from as well.