Parenting has to be one of the greatest accomplishments life. But you have to be careful as it’s easy to get caught up as a couple when you’re constantly occupied taking care of the important things at home: Cleaning, baby, each other.
But when it comes to taking care of someone other than yourself, it is far too easy to forget about what matters most: You.
Now, I don’t mean that no one else in your life matters. But at the end of the day, if you’re not making sure you are continuously striving to become the best version of yourself, how can you expect to properly take care of those most important to you?
It may take some work on your part, but it’s fairly easy: Don’t lose yourself in the process!
Did you always go to the gym before starting a family? Wake up at 3am to go to the gym before you work at 6am. Did you dedicate a couple of hours of reading everyday? Include your partner and baby in your reading time. Do you play a musical instrument and are afraid that you won’t be able to play any more? Set some time aside while your baby naps and get some practice time in (But don’t wake up the baby!) I think the point is easily understood here.
You MUST make the necessary sacrifices so that, in the process of taking care of a wife and child, you do not forget who you are and what you love to do. Even if the time you get to devote to the things you love get whittled down to only a few minutes a day, take that time to fully engage in the things that make you happy.
Sacrifices are going to have to be made. And that is on both Mom and Dads side. But as a couple, you have to be willing to allow your partner time to focus on themselves and to do what makes them happy.
You will grow closer as a couple and your child will grow up with awesome parents and they will hopefully recognize (when they can understand the concept) that, no matter what you do in life, never lose who you are and always continue to do what you love, whatever that may be.